How to Beat Wedding Day Jitters (and Actually Enjoy Your Big Day!)

Suddenly, it hits you: the jitters.

Whether you’re about to walk down the aisle or just sitting in a room with your bridal party, the nerves can hit hard.

But don’t worry — you’re not alone. The wedding day butterflies are completely normal. The good news is, there are plenty of ways to calm those jitters and ensure that you’re present, relaxed, and (most importantly) enjoying your own wedding.

Let’s be real: If you’re feeling stressed out on your wedding day, it’s okay. The wedding industry loves to make us think everything should be perfect, but let’s face it — we're often far from it. The day is about celebrating love and your commitment, not about some flawless performance. So, let’s talk about ways to chill out and take the pressure off.

After all, the only thing that really needs to be perfect is the fact that you’re marrying the love of your life.

Breathe In, Breathe Out

First things first, take a deep breath. In through your nose, out through your mouth, and repeat until you feel like your heart isn’t going to burst out of your chest. Seriously, breathing is your best friend on a day when emotions are running high. One of the best ways to beat wedding day nerves is through a good old-fashioned breathing exercise. Try the 4-7-8 technique: inhale for 4 seconds, hold it for 7, and exhale for 8. Not only does this calm your nervous system, but it also helps you focus. Bonus points if you can do this while standing in front of a mirror and reminding yourself how fabulous you look in your dress (or suit).

If you really want to get zen about it, you can try some guided meditation or mindfulness. Apps like Calm and Headspace have great “wedding day stress relief” sessions that will have you feeling like you’re on a beach in Bali, even if you’re just in your bridal suite with a million things going on around you.

Move It, Shake It

You know that moment when you feel like you're going to burst into tears or run away to Vegas? What you need is a dance break. Yes, you read that right. A quick dance session is the perfect way to shake off those nerves. Throw on a feel-good song and get your groove on for a few minutes. I know we typically do this with kids, but there's nothing better than getting back in that care free head space that children seem to live in.

Grab your best friend, your mom, or even your photographer for a mini dance party. It’s a surefire way to release some of that nervous energy and inject some joy into the day. Trust me, when you’re busting a move, you’re not thinking about the wedding timeline or the fact that your uncle might get a little too tipsy at the reception.

Find Your Zen Moment

Okay, so dancing isn’t everyone’s thing. If you’re more into quiet reflection than busting out the cha-cha, find a quiet space before the ceremony to just breathe and get in the right headspace. It can be a balcony, a bathroom, or even a cozy corner at your venue. Take a few minutes to just be present with yourself. This is your day — your moment. Whether you close your eyes and visualize yourself walking down the aisle or reflect on all the love and support you’ve received, giving yourself a little space will make a world of difference.

Need an extra boost? Try a little aromatherapy. A dab of lavender oil or eucalyptus on your wrists can do wonders for calming your mind. If you’ve got a diffuser nearby, even better — the calming scents will keep you relaxed and centered.

Laugh, Don’t Cry (Unless It’s Happy Tears)

Wedding days can be emotional, but don’t let the pressure of perfection get to you. Sometimes the best way to calm your nerves is to crack a joke or watch a funny video. Seriously — if you find yourself spiraling into panic mode, go ahead and watch a 3-minute comedy clip on YouTube. Sometimes, you just need to laugh. After all, you're about to marry the person you love. That’s worth celebrating.

If you’re with your bridal party, take a moment to tell some funny stories, share embarrassing memories, or laugh about how your flower girl almost knocked over the entire altar. Laughter is a natural way to release tension, and you’ll be surprised how much lighter you feel afterward.

Surround Yourself With Calm Energy

One of the best ways to manage wedding day jitters is to be around people who help you stay grounded. Your wedding day crew — whether it’s your bridal party, family, or best friend — should be your support system. Make sure to spend time with people who calm you down, rather than anyone who might add stress. There’s no room for drama on your wedding day, so keep things light and positive.

If you’re feeling especially overwhelmed, talk it out. Share your nerves with someone who gets it. Most likely, they’ve been where you are and can offer reassurance. Plus, a quick hug from a loved one is like a mini reset button for your emotions.

Keep Hydrated and Eat Something

We’ve all seen those memes about brides being “too busy” to eat on their wedding day, but let’s be real: You need to eat and drink. Hydration is key to keeping those jitters at bay. Drink water, not just champagne! A healthy snack will give you energy, prevent your blood sugar from dropping, and stop you from feeling hangry when you're trying to put on a brave face during your vows.

Get Empowered

A little self-affirmation can go a long way. Take a moment to look yourself in the mirror and say: “I’ve got this.” Or, if you’re feeling extra sassy, say: “I’m about to rock this wedding, and no one is going to ruin my vibe.” Whatever works for you, just make sure you’re mentally prepping yourself for the amazing celebration ahead. If you feel yourself getting anxious, repeat your mantra like it’s your personal power chant. It’s your wedding day — you’re going to look amazing, you’re going to feel amazing, and the day is going to be your day.

Last But Not Least, Trust the Process

The truth is, there will be unexpected moments. Maybe your bouquet is slightly askew, or your cousin trips on the dance floor. And you know what? That’s fine. It’s part of the magic of the day. Weddings aren’t perfect, and they don’t need to be. What matters most is the love you’re celebrating. So, take a deep breath, smile, and let go of the small stuff.

Your wedding day is about embracing the joy of the moment, the love you’ve found, and the people who are supporting you. Enjoy every second — the nerves, the laughter, the tears. It’s all part of the experience. And when it’s over, you’ll have a lifetime of memories and a partner to share them with.

Now, go ahead and take that deep breath... your best day ever is about to begin.