A Makeup Artist's Perspective on Your Wedding Day

Let me offer you a glimpse into what a typical wedding day looks like through the eyes of a makeup artist.

It all begins with the first point of contact—whether it’s through email, a phone call, or a consultation. Unfortunately, I’ve often received inquiries that go something like this: "This is what I want, can you do it, and what’s the price?" It's blunt, impersonal, and lacks any real connection. Given that your wedding day is one of the most important moments of your life, it’s surprising to me that so many brides or bridesmaids fail to introduce themselves or show any appreciation for the vendors who are going to help make the day special.

On the wedding day itself, we arrive early—sometimes even before the venue opens—to set up. We carefully prepare our tools and products, mentally and physically readying ourselves for the long day ahead. Even with detailed pre-wedding consultations, video chats, and a flurry of emails, we often have no idea what the bridal party will be like when they arrive. It’s our job as makeup and hair artists to help ensure the day runs smoothly, and that the bridal party enjoys the experience, despite the occasional challenges.

We face the responsibility of managing not only the technical side of our work but also the emotional tone of the room. After all, this is one of the most stressful days in anyone’s life, and how each person handles stress can vary dramatically—especially when you add in friends, family, and sometimes alcohol. While I’ve heard some truly wild stories from my fellow vendors, most bridal parties are relatively low on drama. What truly stands out, however, is the level of appreciation and respect the bridal party shows to the vendors—especially when it comes to basic human decency.

Unfortunately, makeup artists and hair stylists can often be overlooked during the event itself.

I’ve seen many instances where food and drinks are ordered for the bridal party, yet no one thinks to ask if the vendors need anything—like a simple glass of water. This isn’t about complaining; it’s about recognizing that we, as vendors, are a crucial part of the day. Our work can make or break your wedding, and yet, sometimes we are left to navigate the day without the basic courtesies we all need to stay focused and energized.

As someone who has worked in salons for over 15 years, I’m used to working long hours without eating or taking breaks. It’s part of the job, and I’m sure many other professionals feel the same. But that doesn’t mean it’s not discouraging when no one stops to ask, "Would you like some water?" It’s heartbreaking when our efforts, our time, and our presence are taken for granted.

I understand that wedding days are busy and filled with excitement. But I want to remind brides, grooms, and fellow vendors: we are all working together to create something beautiful and memorable. As a vendor, I deeply appreciate being chosen to be part of your big day. I don’t hold expectations, but I do hope for a little kindness and appreciation in return—because I always try to show the same respect to everyone I work with.

It's a trend I’ve noticed over time: the newer generations often lack appreciation for the hard work of others, even when it comes to those who are there to help. So, my plea is simple: Whether you’re a bride, a bridesmaid, a photographer, or another vendor—please take a moment to consider the needs of everyone involved. We’re all in this together, and a little appreciation goes a long way in making this day memorable for everyone.

Thank you to all my clients who have chosen to work with me. I hope I’ve helped create beautiful memories for you, just as you’ve created lasting ones for me.